LOVE

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Thursday, April 10, 2014

*****Note: I wrote this during a very emotional episode.  I am sorry about the anger. I woke up the next day and felt so ashamed of my anger. I decided to repost for my own healing purposes*****

I don't even know where to start. I have found myself once again down a dreaded road I never thought I would go down. After all, I have four beautiful children. I've gotten pregnant without trouble..... Probably too easily. As we've had more children we've gotten the most awesome comments from friends and strangers, "Wow!", "do you have a television??" or my favorite "Are you Amish now??" The way people reacted to our growing family always bothered me. It annoyed me. It made me ashamed. I guess I care about the opinions of others. Silly insecure me. So when we discovered we were pregnant with our fifth, my initial reaction was fear. Not fear of what having five kids would be like, but fear of what PEOPLE would say. Gosh I hate that. I hate myself for feeling that way. I want to go back and be ecstatic and thankful. I assumed it would be another routine pregnancy. I never for a second thought I would have a miscarriage. I never thought I would go for a routine ultrasound and see an empty gestational sac and have to endure a week of blood tests and another ultrasound confirming the worst...ending in leaving a hospital not with a beautiful baby but with an empty womb and a broken heart. Never would I think I would be down this road again, nine months later only further along. I mean I had a photo, it says "baby" on it. I saw that little heart beating. I was told there was less than 5% chance of it stopping. It stopped. My baby died. I was a part of that 5%. 95% of women still had that heartbeat beating inside of them. This time I didn't care about what asinine things haters would or might say, I was excited. I was blessed. I realized how freaking blessed I was, fully realized how amazing my kids are, and how I was never entitled to have them without trouble and how that was a gift I didn't deserve but was given. I thought that was my lesson to learn. Don't know what purpose there is in all of this (and not open to suggestions either or for the revelation that this is God's will) I just know my heart is broken. I just know I'm mad it happened again. I'm mad at the crap people say, and how insensitive people can be. I'm mad at social media for making me feel like crap and for the freaking fabulous week everyone else is having. I'm livid that I will not be delivering my baby on October 25th. I'm mad that my prayers weren't answered and if any one refers to my baby as "tissue" again I will kick them in the balls, even if its a woman and she doesn't have balls. I am not sorry for being angry and if I've learned anything....I do not care what anyone thinks about that.

5 comments:

  1. Im proud of you! Proud you are letting yourself feel no matter what people think. Praying for you, dear friend!

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  2. My sweet sister, you are allowed to be angry, you are allowed to be sad, disappointed, mad and sad. God wants you to bring all of this to Him. Remember you live for an audience of one....and everyone else can suck it. That last part doesn't really have a Biblical reference.

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    1. Haha. Love you. Thank you! You have been so amazing to me. It means so much!! ♡

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  3. I love you Monica. Your story is compelling and unforgettable add full of passion... Love will get you through this... I am here for you... Continue to fight and kick butt if you have too!!! Love your big sister Sue xoxo

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